Deciding upon suitable clothing designs and styles for your child can become an incredibly difficult affair once your child moves into the pre-teen stage where they become more independent and, as a result, wish to have a say when it comes to what they’re dressed in each and every day.
It’s certainly true to say that children’s clothing has changed dramatically through the decades, though it is of course equally true to say that not everybody, possibly including you, has seen these changes as a good thing. Though children gaining a mind of their own is certainly a good thing, and all part of a child’s development, when trying to choose clothing designs that are suitable for your child’s age you may have nothing short of a fight on your hands in order to ensure your child gets to wear what they want to wear without stretching too far away from what you know is best for them.
With this in mind, think about the following three points when you next enter the clothing battlefield with your pre-teen child:
Consider their Point of View
This is possibly the most important point of all, as without considering the point of view of your child both ahead of clothes shopping (either at the store, or online) and as you’re doing it, you will find it incredibly easy to verbally override them, feeling it’s okay for you to do so simple because you’re the adult in the situation.
Though you do, of course, know best and have your child’s best interests at heart, if you don’t take the time to consider things from their point of view, and therefore word your arguments and responses in ways that relate to this point of view, they will simply feel like they’re being steamrollered by what you want as if they’re still a little kid, which could be potentially damaging for their self confidence, and at the very least will cause them to rebel in other ways later on.
Define Your Range of Comfort
When it comes to choosing clothing designs with your child, your range of comfort will be a range of clothing designs and styles in which you feel comfortable about your child wearing. This could also extend to the quality of the clothes in question, as there’s a good chance you’ll feel much more comfortable if your child is wearing good quality, designer kids clothes compared to if they are wearing cheap, supermarket brand clothing. Simply put, the better quality a certain item of clothing is, the greater chance there will be of you allowng your child to wear it.
There’s a good chance that your range of comfort may well be tested to the extreme if you have a pre-teen daughter, as unlike sons, they are not only more likely to take an interest in the clothes they wear, they’re also more likely to want to wear styles that you may stuggle to fit into your range of comfort.
Keep Your Cool
Much like in business or any other situation whereby two parties want completely different things, you must keep your cool when choosing clothing designs suitable for your child’s age alongside the child in question, as it’s always better to come to a compromise than blow a gasket and miss a valuable opportunity to teach your child about the ways of the world.
If you choose to compromise with your child regarding certain styles of clothing it helps if you have already defined your range of comfort (detailed above) as you’ll be able to quickly say yes or no to an item your child places in front of you with relative confidence regarding how you feel about them wearing it. Luckily, if your child has always been used to the finer things in life you shouldn’t have any problem convincing them of the necessity to purchase high quality clothing over cheaper alternatives.
In conclusion, deciding upon suitable clothing designs and styles for your child can become an incredibly difficult affair once your child moves into the pre-teen stage where they become more independent and wish to have a say when it comes to what they’re dressed in.